Home‎ > ‎God And The Mystery Of Sex‎ > ‎

The Reality Of Pornography

The reality is that people really like sex, we are created that way by the design of God. And the reality is men, especially, really like porn because it is by the design of God for men to experience arousal with the sight of sexual imagery. God commanded mankind to "be fruitful and multiply" before sin entered the world, therefore God created our sexuality before the fall, and God said it was good. God created our sexuality so that we could and would fulfill the command to "be fruitful and multiply." Obviously God has rules for sex which many are lead astray by the false teachings of the church. Most of this is due to false definitions to the terms sexual immorality and lust. Please read those pages first for proper understanding. 

15 Arguments Against Porn Refuted

Argument #1 - Porn is wrong because men are to only look sexually at their wives. - This is actually not logical in principle because before one marries their wife they look on this individual with sexual desire. It is wrong to have sexual RELATIONS outside of marriage, but to look on the opposite sex as we are wired and created by God to do is not sin because we are not having "relations" with the person being looked at. The key is in properly defining the term lust as the Bible defines the term. 

Argument #2 – The Bible says Christians are not to be involved with porn based on the word “porneia” in the Bible. - Sexual immorality or fornication is the definition of "porneia" in the bible, not sexual imagery. And the Bible never identifies sexual imagery as sexual immorality. Sexual immorality involves incest, bestiality, homosexuality, adultery, and whoremongering. In other words, sexual relations with another individual outside of marriage.

Argument #3 Christ and his Apostles would have disapproved of porn if they had it back then. - Actually sexual imagery was prevalent back then and also well before the 1st century. It was just in a different form as obviously they didn't have computers or magazines. They did have many sculptures and paintings back then that have the same impact as porn today, it just wasn't as vivid or real to our imaginations. And yet the Bible never condemns sexual imagery. The key is in properly defining the terms sexual immorality and lust as the Bible defines these terms.

Argument #4 The Bible’s condemnation of sensuality condemns pornography. - Sensuality is synonymous with lasciviousness. The meaning of these words have nothing to do necessarily with sexuality. It has everything to do with overindulgence of any particular pleasure whether it be sex or enjoying food. So it's not about the pleasure, but the moderation or overindulgence in which we partake of such pleasures. Sensuality is not synonymous with sexual.

Argument #5 Porn is wrong because it causes people to lust. - Actually this is not true. The key is in properly defining the term lust as the Bible defines the term. This is the big one for most people, but due to false teaching, they wrongly apply the word lust in a different way in which the Bible used the word.

Argument #6 Porn is wrong because we are enjoying other people’s sin. - This is an assumption that, say for example, the man and women producing the imagery is not married. If one was in the physical presence of the act, then this would be true. But porn is about imagery, or pixels on a screen. If you are enjoying the imagery of a man and woman having sexual relations, that is by the design of God. We wouldn't be enjoying someone else's sin if the couple was married. Are we to always assume they aren't married or are we to put this into question at all? It is a matter of conscience and freedom in regards to the source. The apostle Paul spoke about this principle when dealing with those concerned about foods sacrificed to idols. Paul tells them that the source of the meat is not important because everything belongs to God.

“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive. No one should seek their own good, but the good of others. Eat anything sold in the meat market without raising questions of conscience, for, “The earth is the Lord’s, and everything in it.” If an unbeliever invites you to a meal and you want to go, eat whatever is put before you without raising questions of conscience. But if someone says to you, “This has been offered in sacrifice,” then do not eat it, both for the sake of the one who told you and for the sake of conscience. I am referring to the other person’s conscience, not yours. For why is my freedom being judged by another’s conscience? If I take part in the meal with thankfulness, why am I denounced because of something I thank God for? So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. 1 Cor. 10:25-31  ("Or whatever you do" indicates that this is not just talking about food sacrificed to idols, but an overall principle to be applied to all of God's gifts toward us.)

But not everyone possesses this knowledge. Some people are still so accustomed to idols that when they eat sacrificial food they think of it as having been sacrificed to a god, and since their conscience is weak, it is defiled. But food does not bring us near to God; we are no worse if we do not eat, and no better if we do. Be careful, however, that the exercise of your rights does not become a stumbling block to the weak. 1 Cor. 8:7-9 (Food is food. It does not matter the source whether it was formerly sacrificed to idols or whether the animals eaten were mistreated or not. The same principle applies to buying clothes or products from companies that produce from sweat shops. The source should not affect our conscience. The same principle applies in regards to the source of porn. The reality is that the imagine being looked at is simply that, an image. The source of the image need not concern us.)

Argument #7 Porn sexually objectifies women and therefore it is wrong. - God created men in such a way that objectifies people, not just women, for their functional abilities first, then secondarily as a person. This is what makes men as a whole better leaders in the world of business, politics, military, and other similar areas. Men seek the farewell of the unit first, and the persons within the unit second. Women compliment men by generally taking the reverse approach. God himself carries this same nature within himself throughout scripture as God has a big picture perspective in mind for his creation, yet we sometimes don't understand God's actions based on individual results. So porn objectifying women is not inherently wrong or outside the nature of God or men. Women are sexual beings designed by God to be desired of men.

Argument #8 Porn causes men to become sex addicts. - Sex and porn are not the problem. Porn is not a physical addiction in which one withdraws physically. And blaming porn or sex is to avoid the real issues at hand. Men do use porn and masturbation as a way of self soothing, and a way to relax from stress. It can be used to combat loneliness and depression. But porn is a symptom, not the cause. In other words, the stress, loneliness, and depression occur first, then the increase of porn usage, not the other way around. Porn should be used in moderation just like anything else. But overindulgence, or the wrongful label of addiction, is the symptom, not the cause. 

Argument #9 Porn makes men desire sex less with their wives. - This is simply not true. The fact is that men want more sex than most wives are willing to give them. Their libido or sexual appetite exceeds their wife's because of the testosterone that God gave them. This argument again fails to focus on the proper cause of less sex with wives. Porn is a symptom that is a way for men cope with the real issues. Maybe the cause has nothing to do with the woman. For example say a man has psychological baggage such as dealing with depression. Maybe the woman has everything to do with the cause. For example say the woman mistreats the man, or regularly denies the man sex. This can cause a lack of desire toward that wife and a symptom can be the man turning to porn to satisfy his sexual desires and needs. But men would rather have sexual relations with a real person that they love and care about. The problem for most men though is that they aren't willing to put in the work to create that situation for themselves. And that goes for women too. 

Argument #10 Would you want your mother, sister or daughter doing porn? - The answer to that is obviously no. The reason is because of the relationship we have with those people. Are you sexually aroused by the site of a woman? The answer is yes. Are you sexually aroused by your mother, sister, or daughter? The answer is no because of the relationship we have with them. But the reality is that every mother, sister, or daughter is the object of sexual desire by their husbands, but that still makes it wrong if they became an object of sexual desire to you. We do not think of them in that way nor do we want to try to think of them that way. In the same way this argument is not valid. Obviously if someone was to participate in porn, it would have to be within the confines of a marriage relationship to be honored by God. But as a viewer of sexual imagery, as opposed to a participant of the act, the source is not of importance as explained above.

Argument #11 Porn disrupts relationships and destroys marriages. - Again, porn is not the cause. People who say this misdiagnose the real issue. All the research on porn agree that men who use porn don't consider it relationship betrayal. They don't love their spouses or girlfriends any less, nor do they judge their lovers harshly compared with the imagery they see on screen. And except for the small group of compulsive porn consumers, the vast majority of men don't consider it a substitute for their lovers or a sign of relationship dissatisfaction."

Women on the other hand do not consider it an innocent masturbation aid. They feel traumatized and confused, and can't understand why their lovers would spend time this way. They equate porn with infidelity, proof that their lovers no longer desire them. They also experience deep feelings of loss--of the man's affection, his sexual interest, and intimacy and trust in the relationship. They often describe themselves as feeling old, fat, ugly, and worthless because of their lovers' porn habits.

What disrupts relationships and destroys marriages is the battle between man's God gifted sexuality and the false ideals of feminism in our culture along with the false teachings within the church on marriage and sexual matters.

Argument #12 Porn creates unrealistic expectations, for men and women both, on their sex lives within their marriage. - While this can be a valid argument for some, it does not change the morality of the subject. And again porn can not take the totality of the blame for false expectations. There are many ways to combat that and create proper expectations. But what also creates unrealistic expectations is the teachings of the church and our culture on male sexuality. It's not a proper expectation to deem male sexuality as an evil desire of the flesh that should be suppressed. It is not an evil desire of the flesh and it will not be suppressed because we were gifted with our desires and sexuality by God. This unrealistic expectation of male sexuality also causes great shame and guilt among men. The result of this shame and guilt is that we naturally rationalize to ourselves that if watching porn and masturbating is a sin and I'm unable to control myself in this sin, than I may as well go participate in the real thing. Now we've got a real problem. Men are now going out and participating in real sexual immorality against God when God had provided a way for them to escape that temptation with masturbation, sexual imagery, and imagination. THAT is the real tragedy in all of this.

Argument #13 People seek more sadistic forms of porn and sex crimes increase because people naturally look for new highs of arousal because their senses dull over time. - The statistics actually show the opposite. See this Case Study on how sex crimes decrease with porn exposure in societies. The reason is because people now have an outlet to their sadistic desires for those that have them. We are talking about forms of porn that are not natural forms of sexual expression as God designed. A man and a woman having sex is designed by God to create arousal. Two actors depicting a rape to create sexual arousal is not by the design of God, but comes from our corrupted nature due to sin. 

God commanded mankind to "be fruitful and multiply" before sin entered the world. So our sexuality was from the beginning and God said it was good. It is also a fact that the majority of people reject distasteful forms of porn. It does not create arousal and they do not further seek it. What does this tell us? It tells us that porn is not the problem. The problem is in what our hearts and desires seek. If we seek Godly forms of sexual arousal and pleasure, then we will find that. If we seek in our hearts and desire more sadistic forms of porn, then we will find that as well. The porn industry reveals the desires of men whether it be holy or corrupt. Read the page on sexual immorality to see what God deems as sinful sexual expressions.

Argument #14 Viewing porn does not glorify God. - Anything we do that God designed us to do glorifies God. Just because porn and masturbation is a private matter, doesn't change the fact that we are designed by God to be aroused by sexual imagery. And sexual release is a necessary bodily function God incorporated our bodies with. Peeing and Pooping is just as private of a matter, but we are designed by God to do these things. Is this the most noble of things a man can do? No, because it is always better to seek the good of others over self gratification. But self gratification is not sin in and of itself. 

“I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive. No one should seek their own good, but the good of others. Eat anything sold in the meat market without raising questions of conscience, for, “The earth is the Lord’s, and everything in it.” If an unbeliever invites you to a meal and you want to go, eat whatever is put before you without raising questions of conscience. But if someone says to you, “This has been offered in sacrifice,” then do not eat it, both for the sake of the one who told you and for the sake of conscience. I am referring to the other person’s conscience, not yours. For why is my freedom being judged by another’s conscience? If I take part in the meal with thankfulness, why am I denounced because of something I thank God for? So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. Do not cause anyone to stumble, whether Jews, Greeks or the church of God—even as I try to please everyone in every way. For I am not seeking my own good but the good of many, so that they may be saved. 1 Cor. 10:23-33 ("Or whatever you do" indicates that this is not just talking about food sacrificed to idols, but an overall principle to be applied to all of God's gifts toward us. We are to pleasure in his blessings with joy and thanksgiving. And when we do that our pleasure gives glory to God. Paul puts it in perspective that not all God's blessings are beneficial or constructive to others and that we should seek to bless others first over ourselves.)

Argument #15 We know porn is wrong because of the guilt associated with it and the use of masturbation. - The guilt and shame is due to the false teachings we've received about the function of masturbation and porn in our lives. If we are told repeatedly not to urine, over and over and over again. It is wrong to urine. Well you can hold it for a time, but it's going to build up, and you're going to have to release it eventually. But when you do, you will feel shame and guilt because you failed to hold it in. But the reality is that you were fighting against a healthy bodily function by God's purposed design. Once the teaching changes on the subject matter and you experience the freedom that the truth brings, the guilt and shame associated with it will leave.

The Case For Porn

1) Porn aids in masturbation, which provides sexual release to the body. This is normal and completely healthy.
2) Porn is safe as it prevents disease such as STD's. This is a good thing.
3) Porn prevents unwanted pregnancies and acts as a form of birth control. This is good.
4) Porn fulfills sexual satisfaction and fantasies. Show me the Bible book, chapter, and verse that tells us this is bad or wrong.
5) Porn gives a sexual outlet to sexual predators and decreases sex crimes. Or we could try the impossible task of suppressing these perverted sexual desires and just sit back and complain when these people explode and act out in destructive ways. 
6) Porn soothes depression, pain, and loneliness. Porn is a symptom of these feelings, not the other way around.
7) Porn is exciting and pleasurable. Again show me the Bible book, chapter, and verse that tells us this is bad or wrong.
8) Porn is easy and mostly free. Nothing wrong with that.
9) Porn helps prevent adultery by providing an outlet. Why commit actual bodily sexual sins when God provides an outlet to deal with your God given sexual appetite. 
10) Porn helps accommodate those with higher sex drives than their spouse. How unfair would that be if there was no solution for this.
11) Porn helps accommodate those whose spouse denies them of sex. Again how unfair this would be with no solution.
12) Porn aids in self discovery of what people like and don't like about sex. Nothing wrong with that.

No Law = No Sin

Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression of the law. I John 3:4 (Now we know the definition of sin.)

Because the law worketh wrath: for where no law is, there is no transgression. Romans 4:15 (If there is no law against looking at sexual imagery, then it would be a teaching of man to forbid it as that is adding to God's word.)

For until the law sin was in the world: but sin is not imputed when there is no law. Romans 5:13 (There must be a law against it to declare it a sin.)

What shall we say then? Is the law sin? God forbid. Nay, I had not known sin, but by the law: for I had not known lust, except the law had said, Thou shalt not covet. Romans 7:7 (The law tells us what is sin, period.)

People just have to overcome their false teachings on the subject and unlearn all those false ideas. We are robbing ourselves of blessings and health outlets and instead torturing ourselves with shame and guilt over something that is simply not condemned in the Bible. These are teachings of man and have not benefit.
Comments